Welcome to the Team NLP blog where we will be sending you regular blogs in 2020. This is one of my goals and personal commitment to you. The blog will be used to share lots of ideas for free about how you can create what you want throughout 2020. Here is the first…
Yes, I know it’s that time of year AGAIN. The time of year when there is an opportunity to re-boot or refresh the way we live our lives and create success in them. I am sure that all of us have set New Year resolutions or goals only to find that they have all but evaporated by February or even sooner than that! This is because willpower by itself is not enough to make a change. Every year in January, millions of people write their New Year’s resolutions, committing to what they are going to change in the coming year. For nearly half, these resolutions are related to health, such as weight loss and fitness. Yet 80% of these will fail by February. The good news is that you can avoid this trap and beat the odds this year by using our principles for success.
Principle No. 1- Get Clear on What You Want
Reflect on the key areas of your life. Which are going well and where would you like to create change – it doesn’t matter if this is a massive, medium or pretty small change. Is it around your health, work, relationship or finances to name but a few? Now get clear on what specifically you want to change. What really fires you up? Check that your goal is SMART i.e. specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and timed. For example, I want to lose weight is not clear enough. I want to lose 10 pounds by the 1st April 2020 is clear. Focus on your goal because whatever you put your attention on in your life will grow stronger. Have a go at writing down your goal now and double check it is SMART.
Principle No. 2 – Know Why it is a Must
Now ask yourself why do I want to achieve this goal? List all the positive things that will happen when you achieve your goal. Now ask yourself ‘If I don’t do this now what will it ultimately cost me?’ Make sure you are doing this for yourself and not because someone else is nagging you to do it. If this is the case I can guarantee it will fizzle out in no time. When you have enough important ‘whys’ for your goal you will definitely be motivated to go for it!
Principle No. 3 – Take Massive Action
This is the most important step. Ask yourself the question…Are you prepared to do whatever it takes to achieve your goal including things you do not want to do? Imagine it’s a cold, rainy dark morning in January and you have committed to get yourself to the gym or to go for a run. This is what doing whatever it takes really means! If you set yourself enough ‘whys’ then taking action will be consistently doable. What’s one small step you can take today to begin to move towards your goal. Challenge yourself by asking if you are taking personal and 100% responsibility for your goal. Because, to the extent that you do not, you are giving your personal power away.
Principle No. 4 – Know What you are Getting
Be very aware of what works and what doesn’t for you. For example, if you have chosen a new way of eating for the New Year, and after a couple of weeks, it isn’t getting you where you want to be ask yourself why that might be? Or, perhaps you can ask others for feedback, and constantly evaluate your approach. Think of feedback as a gift and remember to learn from any action that doesn’t go quite to plan. Most important though is to congratulate yourself for what you have learnt so far and not to beat yourself up because you haven’t got the results you want yet.
Principle No. 5 – Be Prepared to Change Your Approach
There is a saying ‘if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got! You must be prepared to be flexible and to move into the unknown. Security is an attachment to the known and the known is our past. No evolution in that. When you experience uncertainty, you know you are on the right track – keep going because this is the moment when lots of people revert to old habits!
Principle No. 6 – Ask for Help from Those who are Already Successful
When making changes, the most successful people in life model those who have already ‘done it’. They do this by mixing with like-minded people, going on courses, being coached or simply asking for advice. You will find that with the appropriate support you the process of change becomes less scary and more enjoyable and your chances of success will be greatly increased.
Remember the only way to predict your future is to create it the way you want it.
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To your success…
Lindsey Agness, Founder and CEO
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