‘’No one can make you feel inferior without your consent’’
How are you this week? How is your comeback going? We are excited about our first meal out for a very long-time next week at our favourite Italian restaurant!
This week I have been delivering some sessions on beliefs and how they get in the way of creating success so I thought I would share some of the key ideas with you. Changing beliefs is absolutely possible and necessary if the change you want to achieve is to stick. For example, when I teach somebody presentation skills I work at a number of levels. Students learn new skills and behaviours but that isn’t enough. They also need to believe that they are a great presenter. If they do not build new beliefs about being a great presenter the danger is that the limiting belief about themselves as a presenter will sabotage their new behaviours, skills, and capabilities. This also fits for our goals. If you set a goal for yourself that is not in alignment with your beliefs, how successful do you think you will be in achieving it? For example, your goal is to set up your own business and you have researched everything thoroughly. You have the skills and capabilities to be successful. However, you believe at a deep unconscious level that you are not good enough to have what you want. What impact will that have on your goal? That’s right, it will sabotage your focus from the start.
What can we do to start to shift beliefs?
Limiting beliefs about ourselves act as a self-fulfilling prophesy. If our beliefs are limiting us, we act in a way that proves our beliefs to ourselves. However, if we have empowering beliefs, we act and behave in a way that releases our full potential and allows us to be our best selves. Limiting beliefs fall into some key categories. Here is how to spot them:
- Negations – anytime you use a negation to describe anything about yourself e.g. I’m not clever, I can’t have a fulfilling relationship, I am not loveable etc
- Comparatives – whenever you make a comparison such as I’m not good enough, I’m too old, I’m too poor etc
- Or a mixture of both – I don’t have enough money
The first step to changing your beliefs is to become your own observer and listen to your inner voice and how you feel, especially when you want to do something different or to improve a current situation. Ask yourself these three important questions when you notice the limiting belief coming up for you:
- What’s my evidence for this limiting belief?
- Where does this belief come from?
- Is it real?
Often just asking these questions will help to start to shift beliefs that are holding you back as you realise that the majority are not real. In fact, they are generalisations from your childhood which you have taken to be your truth and now it is the time for change.
Let me know how you get on.
To your success…
Lindsey and Team NLP
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