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The Choice for Change?

The Choice for Change?

How was the last week for you?  At home we are experimenting with new things to do and the bikes were finally rediscovered after years of neglect at the back of the garage.  So, this week’s goal is to get them road worthy again and then actually go out for our first bike ride in probably about 25 years!  I will let you know how it goes.

This week I have also been listening to all the hypotheses about what will happen when we come out of this lockdown situation.  I was reminded of an activity called ‘The Change Line’ that we used to run at large change management events when I worked at PricewaterhouseCoopers.  We would separate the group into two and get them to stand in two long lines opposite each other.  Each person was effectively paired up with their opposite number.  Then we started the activity.  Round one each person would turn around and change six things about themselves.  After a few minutes they turned back around and the person opposite had to describe what had changed.  The first round was relatively easy.  Then we started with round two….

With round two each person must change six more things about themselves.  During this round they usually learn to become more innovative with their changes.  What might have been removing a jacket in round one becomes a new hairstyle in round two!  Again, they turn back around, and their partner opposite describes what has changed.  Round three is usually the most fascinating round as six more changes are required.  Often people start to swop things with the person to their left or right, exchanging clothing, glasses, shoes and so on.  There is a lot of collaboration and community spirit in this round.  As facilitators we debrief the process and bring out the implications for a change project at work.  Then we ask everyone to sit back down in their chairs.  What the delegates do not know that this is the most interesting part for us.  Can you guess why?  In many years of doing this activity, only once has someone kept all the changes they made.  Most people put everything back exactly as it was and return to ‘normal’. 

I have been reflecting on this for our current situation.  How many people just want to put their lives back exactly how they were?  And how many of us will be more courageous and ask ourselves a much more interesting question?  What have we learnt that is good about this period of our lives and how can we keep the changes going for ourselves, our families, our work, our communities, and our planet?  Which camp are you in?

Stay safe

Lindsey Agness and Team NLP x

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Some Tips to Help Manage Your State

Some Tips to Help Manage Your State

How are you feeling? I am keeping busy with lots of new ideas for the business – watch out for an email about our new online NLP Practitioner next week that starts of the 9th May.  We have a great offer for our inaugural group!  This has been challenging my grey cells and keeping me positive and focused. 

I read a great quote this week. 

‘’When our negative emotions are high our intelligence is low’’.

This effectively means that we are unable to do our best or live our best life when we are feeling unresourceful.  And I do not want to undermine anything that is happening out there especially if you have been personally affected by the virus. Yet, when you think about times when you have been your best self it will not be when you have been feeling anxious or at low energy.   It will be when you have been feeling good about yourself.  Of course, it is challenging to get yourself back into a better place once you fall out of it.  The first step is to recognise that you are not in a good place.  Awareness is the first step.  Here is a simple process that you can do to help yourself shift your mood which you can do quickly and easily…

Imagine yourself floating out of your own body and looking down on yourself.  What do you notice? 

  • How are you feeling?
  • What are you thinking?
  • How are you behaving?
  • What are you saying to yourself?

Notice what you notice and write it down.  Ask yourself how would you like to feel / think / behave / say instead?  What’s different about where you would like to get to from where you are now? Write it down again. 

Then ask yourself how can you start to make the shift towards where you would like to be? What are some of the small steps that you can take?  Some ideas might be:

  • Making sure that you get your daily exercise as any movement will help to change your state
  • Speaking with others more often
  • Focusing on what you can do and have rather than what you cannot do and have not got
  • Taking some time for you and do whatever makes you smile
  • Seek out the possibilities rather than the restraints
  • Be nice to yourself
  • Learn something new

Write these ideas down too.  Then imagine floating back down into your body with all the ideas and check out how different you feel.  Pick one thing to get started with today and take small steps.

Stay safe

Lindsey Agness and Team NLP x

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How to Build Resilience during the Corona Crisis

How to Build Resilience during the Corona Crisis

Well we have another 3 weeks of lock down.  How are you getting on?

Personally, I am finding it harder as the days go by.  I am usually pretty outgoing and dealing with the ‘groundhog’ nature of the process is my biggest challenge despite all the attempts to keep in touch with family and friends on-line.  So, this week my challenge to myself is to re-visit the four domains of resilience to figure out what I can be doing more of.  Before I explain more about it, I want to share a definition of resilience that we use at Team NLP.  It’s the:

 ‘’The capacity to prepare for, recover from and adapt, in the face of stress, challenge or adversity’’

It seems to me that adapting our lives during this unprecedented time, whatever your situation, is key to retaining your well-being and positive mental health.  The four domains of resilience are key to adapting ourselves.  Here’s a brief explanation about each domain…

The first domain is the PHYSICAL domain.  This includes:

  • Exercise
  • Good nutrition
  • Sleep

I have been enjoying discovering new exercise regimes on-line as well as a daily walk.  Today the bikes are also coming out of the garage for the first time in years!  However, my goal this week is to get back into early nights as my normal routine has been slipping which then makes it tougher to concentrate the next day. 

The second domain is the MENTAL domain.  This includes:

  • Ability to focus and attention span
  • Reading books
  • Ability to incorporate multiple views
  • Doing puzzles like Sudoku and crosswords

For some there is more mental space during lockdown.  Are you making the most of it?  Often a sign of stress is not being able to focus on anything for very long.  If you feel that happening to you, turn off the news and social media and pick up a good book.  Find a quiet space in your home if you can and enjoy some focused time for you.  Of course, it doesn’t have to be reading….do something you enjoy.  My goal is to read more for pleasure this week and do a bit less on my business which has become all consuming. 

The third domain is the SPIRITUAL domain.  This includes:

  • Spiritual flexibility
  • Commitment to values
  • Tolerance of other’s values and beliefs
  • Connecting to what is important to you

This is all about what makes your heart sing.  We are reading much about people being much more mindful of their surroundings and enjoying their daily walk.  However, there is also much more intolerance on- line creeping in.  My goal this week is to connect more with family members on-line as the daily check-ins have dropped off abit as the weeks drag by! 

The final domain is that of the EMOTIONS.  This includes:

  • Emotional flexibility
  • Being aware of how you feel
  • Positive outlook
  • Self-regulation
  • Coherent breathing

This is all about becoming your own observer and being aware of the triggers that put you in either a positive or negative state.  I often think of it as a ‘mood meter’.  How am I feeling right now?  What is the name of that emotion?  What do I need to do to change it if it isn’t serving me?  Becoming aware of your triggers means that you can start to self-regulate.  An instant tip is to move about!  Go for that walk, or, even standing up straight and smiling will help.  If you are feeling very energetic try a few jumping jacks! My goal this week is to be honest with myself and keep myself as positive as possible! 

Using the domains of resilience, what are your goals for this week?

Stay safe

Lindsey Agness and Team NLP x

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Let’s Reset Normal

Let’s Reset Normal

How is your time in our new normal going? We have been getting into a new routine which has been surprisingly good. A regular walk every day and experimenting with lots of yoga and barre on-line. We even went to the theatre as the National Theatre is streaming live at 7pm every Thursday evening. Well worth a watch!  Also, lots of innovation in the business.

This week I want to share news of an exciting initiative I have been involved in. 

Less than 2 weeks ago a friend of mine, Kevin Mcalpin, asked me if I would contribute towards a new free e-book to help the world survive coronavirus and social isolation. The purpose is to share experiences of how we can help each other to cope.  He has amassed a range of writers from across the world to share their ideas. I was honoured to be involved. I am sharing a pdf of the book. Please share with others and use the hashtag #letsresetnormal to get the book out to the world!

Ideas to Keep a Positive Mindset…an excerpt from my article in the book

Be aware of what you are focusing on. Our thoughts drive how we feel which ultimately drives our behaviour and our results. Ask yourself, where is my focus right now? Is it on the problem of Covid-19 and fake news? Or, is it on the opportunity for innovation, doing things differently in your life and your business?

’Where focus goes, energy flows’’

In my business, I am having daily brain-storming calls with my fellow Directors to explore how to take the business on-line and offer value now which helps me to feel good about the future and motivates me to take action!

Keep a daily journal to build your own awareness of what is going on in your focus and internal conversations as much of it will be unconscious.  It is important to build conscious awareness so you can begin to create new behaviours. Experiment incorporating “positive affirmations” into your new normal day.  If many times a day you are repeating some sort of “I can, I will” mantra in your head you will start to shift your thoughts about what is possible for you.

“Change your thoughts. Change your life.”

If you feel yourself going into a negative state, for an immediate shift in how you feel do something physical like going for a walk or simply get up, get moving, stand up straight and smile.

I hope these ideas inspire you to start now to build a new routine in your life and to think and feel more positive about the future.

Stay safe,

 Lindsey Agness and Team NLP x

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How to Avoid Getting Stuck in Crisis Mode

How to Avoid Getting Stuck in Crisis Mode

I am writing this from my own home where we were put into effective ‘lock-down’ this week.  My husband reluctantly closed the doors of his coffee shop exactly 6 years from the day he opened it – how ironic is that?  For the first time since 2005 when I started my consulting business, I have no work other than a few on-line coaching sessions.  So, this represents the biggest shift in our daily lives ever and the future of our businesses is uncertain. 

Social media is currently swamped with tips about how to deal with the crisis, yet most people are not following them.  They are not alone because information by itself does not get people to change their behaviour.  So why it is so hard for human beings to change their behaviour? 

In a crisis our routine goes out of the window which causes many of us to go into information overload along with high stress levels.  It’s feels a bit like attention deficit disorder or ADD as we find we can’t focus or concentrate on anything for very long.  Have you felt like this over the last few days? 

From a psychological perspective, we all have our unconscious habits and routines. In fact, Duke university measured in 2006 that at least 40% of our behaviours are entirely unconscious. This means that when we are triggered by certain things we behave in a certain way.  For example, every morning before I leave for work, I have toast and coffee for breakfast before catching the 6.30am train to London and so on.  So, when I am told to stay at home, and I can’t go to the office I am rapidly thrown off course.  The first thing we can all do is to recreate a feeling of stability in our lives and a structure to our day, especially now many of us are spending all day in the same place.  

This situation also creates a feeling of fear in many people.  We are scared of being hurt, we are scared of the economy, we are scared of not being in control, and now we are even scared of each other.  What can you do differently starting today? 

The risk that when in fear mode is that we feel stuck and end up doing what we know isn’t good for us such us spending all day eating and watching Netflix.  So, in our house we have been creating a new routine.  It is keeping to a similar timetable to ensure we all get enough sleep.  Sleep is needed for resilience.  For me personally, I make sure that I do my physical exercise followed by a full day in the home office working on priority tasks that I can do to ensure my business can survive into the future.  I stop at the ‘normal’ time and then have the evening for watching Netflix, reading and so on.  Start by asking yourself  ‘What is a normal day for me even in isolation?’.  This will start to re-create stability and structure.  Do it consciously and feel good about it. Next time more ideas to keep a positive mindset. 

More next time….

Stay safe,

 Lindsey Agness and Team NLP x

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