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Some Tips to Help Manage Your State

Some Tips to Help Manage Your State

How are you feeling? I am keeping busy with lots of new ideas for the business – watch out for an email about our new online NLP Practitioner next week that starts of the 9th May.  We have a great offer for our inaugural group!  This has been challenging my grey cells and keeping me positive and focused. 

I read a great quote this week. 

‘’When our negative emotions are high our intelligence is low’’.

This effectively means that we are unable to do our best or live our best life when we are feeling unresourceful.  And I do not want to undermine anything that is happening out there especially if you have been personally affected by the virus. Yet, when you think about times when you have been your best self it will not be when you have been feeling anxious or at low energy.   It will be when you have been feeling good about yourself.  Of course, it is challenging to get yourself back into a better place once you fall out of it.  The first step is to recognise that you are not in a good place.  Awareness is the first step.  Here is a simple process that you can do to help yourself shift your mood which you can do quickly and easily…

Imagine yourself floating out of your own body and looking down on yourself.  What do you notice? 

  • How are you feeling?
  • What are you thinking?
  • How are you behaving?
  • What are you saying to yourself?

Notice what you notice and write it down.  Ask yourself how would you like to feel / think / behave / say instead?  What’s different about where you would like to get to from where you are now? Write it down again. 

Then ask yourself how can you start to make the shift towards where you would like to be? What are some of the small steps that you can take?  Some ideas might be:

  • Making sure that you get your daily exercise as any movement will help to change your state
  • Speaking with others more often
  • Focusing on what you can do and have rather than what you cannot do and have not got
  • Taking some time for you and do whatever makes you smile
  • Seek out the possibilities rather than the restraints
  • Be nice to yourself
  • Learn something new

Write these ideas down too.  Then imagine floating back down into your body with all the ideas and check out how different you feel.  Pick one thing to get started with today and take small steps.

Stay safe

Lindsey Agness and Team NLP x

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Join us for our next free webinar on the 20th May at 7pm where both myself and other members of Team NLP will be talking about how to stay positive and keep moving forwards in this crisis.

If you’d like to know more about how to build your resilience please join us for 3 x 1-hr on-line sessions this week.  All for £27 including three recordings and an e-book.   

How to Build Resilience during the Corona Crisis

How to Build Resilience during the Corona Crisis

Well we have another 3 weeks of lock down.  How are you getting on?

Personally, I am finding it harder as the days go by.  I am usually pretty outgoing and dealing with the ‘groundhog’ nature of the process is my biggest challenge despite all the attempts to keep in touch with family and friends on-line.  So, this week my challenge to myself is to re-visit the four domains of resilience to figure out what I can be doing more of.  Before I explain more about it, I want to share a definition of resilience that we use at Team NLP.  It’s the:

 ‘’The capacity to prepare for, recover from and adapt, in the face of stress, challenge or adversity’’

It seems to me that adapting our lives during this unprecedented time, whatever your situation, is key to retaining your well-being and positive mental health.  The four domains of resilience are key to adapting ourselves.  Here’s a brief explanation about each domain…

The first domain is the PHYSICAL domain.  This includes:

  • Exercise
  • Good nutrition
  • Sleep

I have been enjoying discovering new exercise regimes on-line as well as a daily walk.  Today the bikes are also coming out of the garage for the first time in years!  However, my goal this week is to get back into early nights as my normal routine has been slipping which then makes it tougher to concentrate the next day. 

The second domain is the MENTAL domain.  This includes:

  • Ability to focus and attention span
  • Reading books
  • Ability to incorporate multiple views
  • Doing puzzles like Sudoku and crosswords

For some there is more mental space during lockdown.  Are you making the most of it?  Often a sign of stress is not being able to focus on anything for very long.  If you feel that happening to you, turn off the news and social media and pick up a good book.  Find a quiet space in your home if you can and enjoy some focused time for you.  Of course, it doesn’t have to be reading….do something you enjoy.  My goal is to read more for pleasure this week and do a bit less on my business which has become all consuming. 

The third domain is the SPIRITUAL domain.  This includes:

  • Spiritual flexibility
  • Commitment to values
  • Tolerance of other’s values and beliefs
  • Connecting to what is important to you

This is all about what makes your heart sing.  We are reading much about people being much more mindful of their surroundings and enjoying their daily walk.  However, there is also much more intolerance on- line creeping in.  My goal this week is to connect more with family members on-line as the daily check-ins have dropped off abit as the weeks drag by! 

The final domain is that of the EMOTIONS.  This includes:

  • Emotional flexibility
  • Being aware of how you feel
  • Positive outlook
  • Self-regulation
  • Coherent breathing

This is all about becoming your own observer and being aware of the triggers that put you in either a positive or negative state.  I often think of it as a ‘mood meter’.  How am I feeling right now?  What is the name of that emotion?  What do I need to do to change it if it isn’t serving me?  Becoming aware of your triggers means that you can start to self-regulate.  An instant tip is to move about!  Go for that walk, or, even standing up straight and smiling will help.  If you are feeling very energetic try a few jumping jacks! My goal this week is to be honest with myself and keep myself as positive as possible! 

Using the domains of resilience, what are your goals for this week?

Stay safe

Lindsey Agness and Team NLP x

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If you’d like to know more about how to build your resilience please join us for 3 x 1-hr on-line sessions this week.  All for £27 including three recordings and an e-book.   

How to Stay Calm during the Corona Crisis

How to Stay Calm during the Corona Crisis

How are you getting on three weeks into lockdown?  Maybe you are one of those working from home like me or on the front-line.  Wherever you are it’s likely that you have experienced some stress worrying about catching covid-19 from those you are helping or how to keep your business afloat or when you will see your family again.  It’s an exceptional time which is leading to exceptional stress levels.  When we experience stress our Autonomic Nervous System (which does all the things we don’t have to think about) goes into overdrive.  It’s that part of us that gets us ready to fight or flight.  A hormone called cortisol is released and you feel your heart rate going up.  This is helpful if you need to run away or fight a wild animal but not good if it is in the system for too long.  It also leads to chaotic heart rhythms.  In contrast, when we naturally experience positive emotions our hearts go into a coherent, calmer state.  The good news is I can show you how to self-generate more of this balanced state.   

When we create adrenaline and cortisol in the body it starts to go out of balance, and this has an effect on the brain.  The part of your brain that helps you to self-regulate i.e. the pre-frontal cortex goes off-line.  And, at the same time, chaotic signals go to up to the part of the brain called the amygdala, the home of the fight, flight emotions. We can effectively hack into our ANS and shift our heart rhythms back into balance by getting a state of coherence.  This sends different information to the brain, and, once the stress centre receives the information, it then de-activates and the PFC comes back online. 

 So, what is coherence?  It is a measurable, scientific state when the heart and brain synchronise.  The result is that you feel in balance and have an increased capacity to be in control of yourself.  I am going to teach you a very quick and easy technique that you can do anytime and anywhere that will help to calm down your system.  You can do this eyes open and, in the moment, when you notice you are experiencing stress. It is an optimal state of being.  This technique is called heart-centred breathing.  You start by focusing your attention in the area of your heart – it can help to put your hand on your hand and bring all your awareness to this spot.  Imagine your breath flowing in and out of your heart area a little slower and deeper than usual.  Some tips:

  • Breathing through your nose as nasal breathing kills bugs, more oxygen, synchronises heart and brain. Creates a workout for the heart and lungs
  • Balanced – experiment with 5 seconds in and 5 seconds out.
  • Smooth and sustained
  • Relaxed belly

Just remember to do it! 

Stay safe, have a wonderful Easter in whatever innovative way you are creating for yourself and your family!

 Lindsey Agness and Team NLP x

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Join us for our next free webinar on the 15th April at 7pm where both myself and other members of Team NLP will be talking about how to stay positive and keep moving forwards in this crisis.

Let’s Reset Normal

Let’s Reset Normal

How is your time in our new normal going? We have been getting into a new routine which has been surprisingly good. A regular walk every day and experimenting with lots of yoga and barre on-line. We even went to the theatre as the National Theatre is streaming live at 7pm every Thursday evening. Well worth a watch!  Also, lots of innovation in the business.

This week I want to share news of an exciting initiative I have been involved in. 

Less than 2 weeks ago a friend of mine, Kevin Mcalpin, asked me if I would contribute towards a new free e-book to help the world survive coronavirus and social isolation. The purpose is to share experiences of how we can help each other to cope.  He has amassed a range of writers from across the world to share their ideas. I was honoured to be involved. I am sharing a pdf of the book. Please share with others and use the hashtag #letsresetnormal to get the book out to the world!

Ideas to Keep a Positive Mindset…an excerpt from my article in the book

Be aware of what you are focusing on. Our thoughts drive how we feel which ultimately drives our behaviour and our results. Ask yourself, where is my focus right now? Is it on the problem of Covid-19 and fake news? Or, is it on the opportunity for innovation, doing things differently in your life and your business?

’Where focus goes, energy flows’’

In my business, I am having daily brain-storming calls with my fellow Directors to explore how to take the business on-line and offer value now which helps me to feel good about the future and motivates me to take action!

Keep a daily journal to build your own awareness of what is going on in your focus and internal conversations as much of it will be unconscious.  It is important to build conscious awareness so you can begin to create new behaviours. Experiment incorporating “positive affirmations” into your new normal day.  If many times a day you are repeating some sort of “I can, I will” mantra in your head you will start to shift your thoughts about what is possible for you.

“Change your thoughts. Change your life.”

If you feel yourself going into a negative state, for an immediate shift in how you feel do something physical like going for a walk or simply get up, get moving, stand up straight and smile.

I hope these ideas inspire you to start now to build a new routine in your life and to think and feel more positive about the future.

Stay safe,

 Lindsey Agness and Team NLP x

Download your FREE copy:
Principles for success 

Join us for our next free webinar on the 15th April at 7pm where both myself and other members of Team NLP will be talking about how to stay positive and keep moving forwards in this crisis.