+44 (0)1304 621735 info@teamnlp.co.uk
How can NLP help me?

How can NLP help me?

If you are serious about making a change in 2020 read on…

This week’s blog starts at the beginning of Neuro Linguistic Programming and explores what NLP is all about, where it came from and how it can help us. In the early 1970s, a linguist, John Grinder, and a mathematician, Richard Bandler, studied individuals who were excellent communicators and technicians of personal change.

What is the difference between somebody who is merely competent and somebody who excels at the same skill?” was the question they asked. The answers produced NLP: The Science of Excellence…The Art of Change.

They began by modelling world-class therapists. Later they moved onto other fields, including salespeople, presenters, trainers and leaders. By closely studying and modelling the beliefs, behaviours and strategies of these models of excellence, they were able to install that behaviour in themselves. As a result of this work, Bandler and Grinder formalised their modelling techniques and their own individual contributions under the name ‘Neuro Linguistic Programming’ – known as NLP – to symbolise the relationship between the brain, language and the body.

Unlike other approaches that tell you WHAT you need to do, NLP is a HOW-TO technology. It tells and shows you HOW TO be what you want to be, have what you want to have and do what you want to do. An intoxicating combination. This means it is possible to have the personal success you want now! For most people things happen and they react. NLP offers a better way. It gives you tools to react differently by choice, to be more aware of your thoughts, feelings and behaviour. You are then ready to take responsibility for your results in all areas of your life.

NLP provides a set of tools and techniques to help you deal with unhelpful patterns of thought and behaviours. Although there are many techniques in NLP you can make amazing changes by using just one technique. Let’s look at each part of NLP in turn:

Neuro is all about what we THINK – or our THOUGHTS.

Neuro means ‘what goes on inside our heads’. We have over 60000 thoughts a day. These form our internal world of pictures, sounds and feelings. It is these conversations, dialogues or arguments we have with ourselves in our thinking process that drive how we feel, our mood and ultimately how to respond to events. In NLP terms these are called our internal representations. For example, if you open your curtains on a miserable rainy day you may consequently feel lousy and this will drive how your day goes for you. Alternatively, you can open the curtains and think to yourself ‘it’s a brilliantly rainy day today!’ and go off and have fun. Another example would be if you are getting ready for an important night out – maybe with a potential new partner – you are excited and focused on the evening going well and how you will feel as a result. This will impact directly on the success of that meeting.

The critical point to realise is that we can control our thoughts. This is very important because how we feel, how we behave and ultimately the results we get are driven by combinations of these internal representations which form our repeating patterns or habits. We run these patterns or habits repeatedly unless they are interrupted or redirected. Sometimes these patterns serve us well but often they sabotage our potential success. The trick is to ensure that the 60000 thoughts you have every day are good ones! Work out for yourself what proportion of your thoughts are helping you to achieve what you want and what proportion are in some way keeping you stuck.

Linguistic is all about what we SAY, both verbally and non-verbally

Language determines how we communicate with other people and ourselves. It is how we label our experience and much more. Empowering language generates empowered behaviour. Likewise, negative language, such as excuses, is the result of disempowering thoughts and often happens without our realizing it. It’s negative language that limits our choices.

Much of our communication is non-verbal. This means how you say what you say (intonation, volume, speed, etc.) carries five times more information than the words spoken. And how you use your body (gestures, facial expressions, posture) is even more influential. As our thoughts and feelings literally ‘leak’ out of us through our bodies, consider what yours says about you? Do they portray low self-esteem or someone who has confidence and knows what they want?

Programming is all about what we DO.

We are all running programmes in our minds, all the time. These programmes, patterns of behaviour and strategies drive the way we behave, our performance and ultimately our results. A phobia is a good example of how the brain works. A particular situation or trigger, such as flying, produces a strong physical response (sweaty palms, fast breathing, panic, etc). The brain learns quickly and thereafter, every time the person is presented with the same stimulus, their body knows to have the same response. The amazing thing is people with phobias NEVER forget to have this response. This is the perfect one-time learning strategy! Often, as with phobias, you run strategies that do not serve – they even sabotage you. NLP teaches us how to change these ineffective strategies or programmes forever.

To bring it altogether, NLP symbolises the relationship between the brain, language and the body. It describes how what we say, think and do interplay and affect our body and our behaviour and our results.

 So, what next?

Download our free e-book and find out more about our success formula or browse our courses to see how Team NLP can help.

Download your FREE copy:
Principles for success 

New Team NLP course:
Online resilience 

From Stressed Out to Chilled Out

From Stressed Out to Chilled Out

How well do you cope with stress. Team NLP can help

You can think of your resilience as the amount of energy you have stored in an inner battery — energy you have available to use not only physically, but also mentally and emotionally. When you have a high level of resilience or a fully charged inner battery, you have greater capacity to remain calm, think clearly and be in control of your emotions so you don’t overreact. Like a drained car battery, when your inner battery is depleted, there isn’t energy to draw from when you need it, making it difficult to be at your best and respond well in tough, and sometimes very ordinary situations. We can describe differences in stress as good stress such as the ability to rise to a challenge, tolerable stress that we manage with the help of family, friends, colleagues and toxic stress when we feel out of control.  Toxic stress can lead to panic attacks, addictions, over-eating and so on.

This week on the Team NLP blog we discuss how to build our resilience using practical and easy strategies

Here are some useful and practical strategies to build your own resilience.  And, if it’s a topic of interest have a look at our new on-line resilience course details below.

Changing your Mindset

Part of our response to stress derives from our individual interpretation of events.  A person who thinks of challenges as opportunities to grow and who believes that failures are ways in which we can learn is likely to have a different response to a challenging event from person who treats challenge as threatening and failure as a devastating indication that they are no good as a person.  Stress is a response to our interpretation of events rather than to events themselves.  We therefore need to consider why individual interpretations of events differ.  Many people catastrophise and tell themselves a story which makes a possible outcome much worse than it turns out to be.  Are you one of these people?  If so, ask yourself, where’s my evidence for this story I am telling myself?  How would I like it to be instead?  Often developing a mantra that you can tell yourself in moments of toxic stress are useful. I always tell my self that ‘every problem has a solution’ and it works for me.

Developing confidence in your ability to solve problems and trusting your instincts helps build resilience. Keep things in perspective. Even when facing very painful events, try to consider the stressful situation in a broader context and keep a long-term perspective. Avoid blowing the event out of proportion.

Just Breathe

When you experience positive emotions, your physiology is naturally more coherent. This quickly recharges your inner battery and builds your resilience. You can intentionally create more coherence throughout the day by practising the following.

Step 1: Focus your attention in the area of the heart. Imagine your breath is flowing in and out of your heart or chest area, breathing a little slower and deeper than usual.

Suggestion: Inhale 5 seconds, exhale 5 seconds (or whatever rhythm is comfortable).

Step 2: Make a sincere attempt to experience a regenerative feeling such as appreciation or care for someone or something in your life.

Suggestion: Try to re-experience the feeling you have for someone you love, a pet, a special place, an accomplishment, etc., or focus on a feeling of calm or ease.

So, what next?

Next time we’ll be talking about how it can help if you align your goals with your purpose in life. Meanwhile, download our free e-book and find out more about our success formula, or browse our courses to see how Team NLP can help.

Download your FREE copy:
Principles for success 

New Team NLP course:
Online resilience